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Monday, July 06, 2009

a littled 'pea'-ed

are you ready for this post? grrr. i'm ready to write it all out, and then i think i'll feel better about it all. i'm not even sure who all reads this blog, besides you faithful commenters and followers, maybe. but i have to let this out before i burst. well i probably won't burst. but i need to just write it all out. and if the off chance family reads this that should be...well maybe next time you'll ask.

okay to the point.

for those of you who don't know we run about 100-ish acres of farm land. this year we have field corn, hay and peas. we have about 30 acres of peas. yesterday the pea pickers came to pick them. which is all good. and an allllllll day process. they cannot drive very fast.

so after church we drove up the hay field by the pea field to show the girls. and saw that shaun's cousins decided that they could come and pick some peas too. we were both irritated. they drove their car, and one a bike. up to our field. to pick OUR peas. without asking. the issue really isn't that they were picking peas, the issue is that they didn't ASK to pick our peas. in my mind. they're stealing. i do not care one single bit that they're family. as we were driving up to them i told shaun he needs to tell them he is upset and that they should ask.

for those of you who do not know my husband, he does not like confrontation. or being mr. mean guy. i told him to get out of the van and go talk to them. he decides not to. and opens his window and says jokingly 'don't pick them all.' okay what?!?! that is not telling them to stop. that's telling them it's totally fine to keep picking. grr. he talked with his cousin for a bit and then drove up the field. i asked him what he did? he said i dunno. then i just said i'm highly disappointed in you. we had two pails for peas so we drove up the field and back into the field. right past his pea picking cousins and also pulled back into the field behind a truck who we had no idea who it was. i told shaun you need to tell them to stop. so he opens his window again. and again. jokes with them and said to leave some for the pea pickers...or something like that. they said 'we will'. finally because i was SO mad i said. no, how about you're done. you didn't even ask. i think they sensed my voice was a little not so nice. they kind of laughed like they couldn't believe it and they left.

oh wait it gets better. so we pull up to the tractor, that has the wagon with the picked peas in it. the truck that had pulled into our field was there as well. with two people. who we really don't even know. getting out their five gallon buckets and huge bowls. shaun got out and told them that he would've appreciated them asking him first. ((btw he's much nicer than me. i told him to tell them to dump the peas back in the wagon!))

get this. the guy said he had the farmer's permission!! NO. he didn't. shaun said no. i am the farmer. the guy then told him that he thought it was "H's" farmland and that one of the "H's" had told him he could come and get some peas.

yep. you read that right. one of shaun's uncles told this guy that he could come take some of OUR peas. what?!? seriously. why does anyone think that it is okay to do that?!?!

we told the pea picker guy to not give out any more peas to anyone else. we left for the day so i'm not sure if it really happened or not. grrr.

so shaun did call his uncle. he asked him why he was telling people that they could come take our peas. his uncle said, i told him he could go take a handful. i guess he got greedy.

shaun left it at that. i told shaun that he really did not get his point across to his uncle though. that it isn't okay to tell ANYONE to come take OUR peas. he said. yea i suppose so. so we will see if it comes up again and i'm sure that shaun will be sure to get his point across.

i understand not wanting to be a meanie or something. BUT they are OUR peas. really our money. we'll get paid per pound or something like that. so if ten people each take a pound. that's ten pounds. and that's x amount of dollars per pound. how fair is that to us?

so my point of this ranting. JUST ASK. that's all we wanted. just to ask if you could take some peas. we would say yes. after all there is 30 acres of peas. TAKING peas all on your own is not okay.

when i get hungry for some strawberries i don't find someone's strawberry garden and park in their yard and start filling my pail. it's the same thing. our field is part of our yard and our land is just one big garden. so ask before you start thinking it's okay to just park your car and start picking away.

shaun has decided that we will never plant peas down at the corner again. when we had peas a few years ago we had them planted by the house and no one just came and took any. that i know of i guess. but it was harder anyways.

i guess i'm just frustrated at the audacity of some people. i'm sure they thought, oh shaun won't care. maybe that's true. BUT why can't you ask first?

so okay. that's that. i'm sorry to go on and on and on about it. i was and still kind of am.

we were busy all weekend. and hardly home. here's a link to see some of the pictures from this weekend. i'm off to play with the kiddos. the girls just got up from nap. at five twenty. that's a good nap day at our house. :0) hopefully shaun will be home soon and we'll eat some yummy supper. a 'mentor mom' came to mom's group today and showed us how to make a yummy mean. and we all got to eat some lunch and bring some yummy leftovers home. AND that 'mentor mom' wants to possibly have a wildtree party for me!! woo hoo. AND i had someone who saw my book at a hair salon call me and place a 76 dollar order?! how fun is that! god is SO good.

just a reminder to enter my giveaway if you want (ends july 9th) and if you're interested in placing a wildtree order you get five dollars off if you place your order before july 15th. just email me and let me know what you'd like!!

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Lauren said...

Wow! I would have been ticked too!

Christy said...

Oh my goodness! The gull of his family. It IS stealing, imo. Praying that's the end of this for you guys.

Booklover1212 said...

Oh Amanda! I would have been upset too. Just because you're family, that doesn't give anyone the right to give permission to pick anything from YOUR land! How about putting a "trespassers will be shot" sign on your property? LOL!

~ Jennifer
http://thetoyboxyears.blogspot.com

He & Me + 3 said...

Seriously...that is just crazy. I would have been a bit disturbed about the whole thing too.

Meg said...

so i need directions so that I can come pick peas, i am sure you won't mind, lol!

Maybe you need an idiot-crow instead of a scarecrow.... :)

Kristen said...

I'd have been angry too! Family or no, that's not right!

Jennifer said...

The nerve of people. That is so ridiculous. I just shocked at the way others think.

Amanda said...

Your husband sounds like mine! We're the same way. I'd have gotten out of the vehicle if I was you! Seriously, as you said you paid for those peas and you're making a profit off of them!

Rachel said...

ooohhh I would be soo mad too! And my husband would do something similarly not mean! I love your newest pics and the kids matching outfits!!

Stephanie said...

I totally agree with you...I'd have been screaming!!!!!! Some people have no respect anymore.

Alicia said...

Oh my gosh..that is so nervy!!!!!!!!

I totally agree w/ you Amanda!

Jennifer W. said...

I haven't looked at the pics yet-I'll get there in a sec. Isn't it funny how family and friends sometimes seem the quickest to take advantage? I think it's very sad. Like being related takes away all need for manners or propriety. Strange, but that's just the way it is sometimes. My hubby wouldn't have bitten his lip-he's the confrontational one and isn't shy about standing up for what's best for our family. I'm usually the one reigning him back! But in that situation, I probably wouldn't have stopped him!! The nerve of some people.
Jen

Verna said...

Perhaps you should send them a bill for the peas they picked.

It would be a different story if they had ask and/or offered to pay for the peas they picked.

I cannot blame you one bit for being upset and angry. I would probably have lost my cool.

Lindy said...

I would have handled it like you! I hope that you can get it all figured out. A friend of ours has a problem like that with her family using their lake cabin without asking. They have even used it when it is being rented out for money to someone else. Just ask people!:)

Following Him said...

I am SO with you on the peabusiness! Could you put a sign up that says "Ask b/f you take" or something along those lines. Good thing it's not in the TX country or some shots may have gone off...seriously! You vent all you want too...I got your back on this issue!
~Elyse

Sneaky Momma said...

I can see why you'd be so angry. I'd be angry, too. :(

agk11808 said...

i think a little pead-off is an understatement. that was just rude and really even if that guy was told grab a handful (wrong either way) why would he go and get 5 gallon buckets? the nerve of everybody... some people.

Kelli @ RTSM said...

I would say I can't believe that someone would do that...but I know people like that too! And my hubby sounds just like yours! He never wants to step on other people's toes even if they are majorly taking advantage of him. He is way nicer than I am too!

Holly said...

The audacity of people never ceases to amaze me. I would have totally been p*ssed.

-stephanie- said...

I would be "pea"ved too.

The Beaver Bunch said...

I'm making split-pea soup tonight and stopped by earlier to grab some peas.

I'm sure you don't mind since it was ME. Right?

Hahahaha. I'd be totally ticked also.

The Beaver Bunch said...

PS. Love the new blog look & the new catching phrase..."Popp"ing out one letter at a time. So cute.

christy rose said...

Some people only think of themselves. Pretty sad really! I understand how you must have felt!

Veronica said...

Hey you! I do not think you were in the wrong at all to have been ticked off by what happened. My Hubby is the same kinda guy, the nicest person you'll ever meet. I am contstantly telling him that he needs to put his foot down in certain situations (like with our renters) and he just has the hardest time doing so. It makes me look like the bad guy, but whatever. Hope that you're feeling better!!!

Karen - Mommy to four sweeties said...

Wow! The nerve of some people. I would have been pretty P O'd too.

~*Michelle*~ said...

Oh no they didn't?!?!

A you p kidding me? What the P are these P people thinking?

P=whatever word you want to insert

Oh man, Amanda.....I would be upset too. And ya know....I know if they would have asked, you would have shared your crop with them just because you are that way.

~*Michelle*~ said...

ps.

BTW. can you bring a bowl of peas when you come to visit? Might as well bring some corn too and a bale of hay for my baby goats too.

thanks!
xox

Martha said...

Oh my, I would have been irritated!! I understand completely and I think I would have handled it way meaner than you did ;)

If your husband does not like confrontation, why not stick a huge sign in an obvious place where the peas are? Write a keep out note, maybe inform them that they must have permission from the farmer directly ;) it might help?

Hope this matter resolves soon, I love your pictures that you posted on Facebook. Super duper cute!

P.S. Your title is classic! Pea-ed LOL

Emily said...

I can't believe someone would do that!

Love the new look!

momof3munchkins said...

I don't blame you for being 'pea'ed! We get that occassionally on our farm too. And my hubby hates confrontation too and usually just lets it slide. I think sending them a bill next time sounds like a good idea!

Sara @ Domestically Challenged said...

I am with you. I'd be totally torqued. Is it that hard to just ask?

Jessi said...

I feel ya on this one. All kinds of people used to come fish in our pond and TAKE the fish home...and then when we wanted to fish, there wouldn't be any big enough to eat. Arg. Sorry about your peas and hopefully people will stop the picking!

Jane Anne said...

Oh wow, I would have been frustrated, too. I can't believe some people!

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Shawn said...

I'm such a slacker, I haven't been by in forever! I would have been pretty mad myself, you're right, that's totally stealing. Some people have seriously got nerve!

Sarah said...

I love the new blog look! Hey, I would have been irritated too. I like how you insisted on having your husband deal with his family. You're a smart cookie!

Aleta said...

If I had been having a PMS moment and saw something like that, I would have gone over my hubby's head and yelled. It's actions like this that totally ticks me off. People are inconsiderate and RUDE! You just don't go into someone's property and start taking stuff. It's NOT RIGHT!!!

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