i don't claim to know it all. i don't claim to be perfect. i just claim to love jesus.

Friday, April 08, 2011

where's yours in?

it's been another week. each time i say to myself i need to blog more. and then it's a week later.

our computer has been acting all wonky. well HAD been. yesterday i decided to try and figure out how to fix it. it would only run in safe mode. and God is so good. i got it fixed. by "myself". i'm so thankful for that. it seriously was the highlight of my day. lol.

i took the kids to the dentist this week. it was the first time for all of them. we do not have dental insurance, so that is why we have never gone before. but i decided we needed to go. well it started because the day before i left for california i had to have a tooth pulled. ((i'm so glad i did, the pain relief was INSTANT!)) and i decided to get my teeth checked and cleaned. ((it had been an obsense amount of time since i had)). so then i planned on getting the kiddos checked too. mainly because i don't want them to have a mouth full of yuck teeth. anyways... they all did great. dustin let them look at his teeth. we didn't try cleaning his this time. looking was good enough for us. caitlyn had zero cavities. YAY! amelya had one. breigh had two. boo. they all did great with getting their teeth cleaned though. and i'm praying cavities go well on the 18th. since we don't have dental insurance. they off a % off if you pay in full with cash or check. so thankfully i was able to do that and save some money. the kids have been super diligent about brushing their teeth since going on monday. so that's a plus too. and amelya has her first loose tooth. insane.

ANYWAYS. i feel like i ramble on and on. and really say nothing at all. or nothing that anyone really truly "cares" about. i mean seriously...i'm sure you don't really care that i took the kids to the dentist. then i remember...it's my blog. i can blog about whatever. and you can read it or leave it.

i've started this blog almost 3 years ago. 3 crazy years. i never would have expected "this". that i would actually stick to something "this" long. that i would make "this" many new friends. that i would have "this" to share my joys. my pains. my happiness. my heartaches with. God has truly blessed "this" for me. and i'm so very thankful!

there have been times recently i've thought about just 'stopping'. i haven't been blogging a lot. but then i realize how much i enjoy it and don't want to stop. and then maybe i wonder if it's ministering to someone. and really. i love it. i've gotten no answers about stopping. so even though it's few and far between...i'm still here. and once i continue to smooth out our schedule...i'll be here more. :)

school has been getting longer for us. i decided to add in a spelling curriculum for amelya. i was going to just wait til next year to start it. but bought it. and had to start it. she's been doing fantastic. she's gotten 9/10 right on both pretests. it's fun. and she asks every day when we're doing spelling. so she likes it. she's gotten into reading fancy nancy books lately. the books are adorable. and she loves them. it's fun to see her reading. i LOVE to read. so i'm praying i can pass that love on to all the kiddos too. yesterday was "craft day" and it was crazy to have amelya reading the directions to me. like seriously?! wow. breigh has been coming along with her K work too. i wasn't sure if she'd be ready to start it. she struggles a bit with letter sounds. but for sure can write all her letters. so we're working slowly on K. technically she doesn't turn five til june. and wouldn't start K til next sept in the schools anyways. the preK stuff was way too easy for her. so i figure we may as well go right on in to K. i have her do the K worksheets from the curriculum. but the other stuff we talk about is from the 1st grade stuff. it's much easier to teach one "main" thing and then break apart what we need to for everyone else. caitlyn has been doing school with us too. she's writing her name now!! woo hoo. a few weeks ago she couldn't at all. and now she is. amazing. it brings so much joy to my heart to see them 'get it'.

i was reading someone's facebook status yesterday about having issues with our local school/teachers. it made me glad that homeschooling is the fit for our family. i don't know how well i would deal with stuff like that. at my gr. grandma's bday party last weekend i was talking with a distant cousin. ((my 2nd cousin? i don't know the 'rules' of that!)) and i mentioned how we homeschooled. her reaction was funny to me. she looked at me like i had two heads and said "why?" with the tone of you're crazy. i can't believe someone chooses to do that. what were you thinking.

she went on to explain how she was excited her youngest was starting 4K next year and she was so excited to get time back for herself. so it wasn't as if she thought homeschooling was awful. it was almost more the fact that i choose to spend all day with my kids. clearly i don't understand her excitement of sending her kids off to school as much as she doesn't understand my excitement of schooling them at home.

which only shows...homeschooling is not for everyone. for me. i couldn't imagine putting my amelya on a bus and waving to her as she goes off down the road. it breaks my heart to think of myself doing that. it doesn't mean that it's bad for others...it just doesn't work for our family. that's really what it comes down to. doing what God leads your family to do. and God has led us to homeschool. all i ask, is that others are happy for us.

there is so much judgement in the parenting world. i mean seriously. i USED to care what everyone thought of my choices. homeschooling. cloth diapering. disciplining. how many kids i have. breast feeding. where my babies sleep. and then i realized how lame i was. truly...WHO CARES?! as long as i am doing what God has called me to do. it does not matter one single bit what anyone else thinks of my choices.

it took me awhile to get to this point. it is not something that happened over night. but i'm so glad God has worked on me. and through this. so my advice to you... be confident. be confident in the calling that God has placed on your life.

sometimes being a parent feels like being in high school all over again. except it's worse. because in high school you knew you'd be "out" in four years. this parenting thing is a permanent gig. you'll always have those moms who think you're awful for letting your baby cry for five minutes. or *gasp* you feed with a bottle? ((and then wonder WHAT is in the bottle...if it isn't breastmilk...how dare you? (oh you tried to breastfeed for weeks and it didn't work out for you. oh you pumped breastmilk because your baby can't latch decent. oh you choose to not breastfeed.) ))does it TRULY matter? no really?. does it? sure breastmilk is "best"milk. but if the mom is feeding her child. does it matter what it is? it's not like she's giving her baby a bottle of alcohol. it's formula. or perhaps breastmilk in a bottle. big deal. sorry. that's one thing that truly bugs me. so many people can place judgement on a simple choice a mom can make to feed her baby.

i'm still nursing evaleigh.. this is the longest i've breastfed without supplementing any bottles. (9 months as of yesterday.) she's only nursing four times a day now. at this point i'm giving her a sippy with all meals so we can just transition to a cup instead of a bottle then to a cup. i have a sample size can of formula in the cupboard. so i just make that up for her when we eat. i didn't get a chance to build up a huge supply of breastmilk in the freezer. and the pump doesn't work for me anymore. so i give her the formula. and she's still living. and so am i. :) and i'll be honest. i'm sort of looking forward to being done nursing. i've been nursing on and off for the past six years. i'm ready to be done. to have my boobs back. lol.

we're done having babies. like i've never been more sure of it than before. it's this peace God has given me about it. and it's been so much fun. i truly know only this peace can come from God. it's crazy. but it's also so exciting. just to see where God will take our family from here. i don't know. i don't even know how to explain it. so then i just end up rambling the same things only using different words. lol.

my birthday is sunday. 28. it's crazy to think i'm 28. i don't feel like it's possible to be 28. it doesn't seem possible to be "out" of high school for 10 years. that i have a 6 year old with a loose tooth. that evaleigh is 9 months old. time goes by so fast. it's truly a vapor. what really matters...is what you're doing with your time. wasting it caring about what everyone thinks about you? or enjoying the callings God placed on you...and not only enjoying them but being confident IN them?

i'd be lying if i didn't say i struggled with being confident. because i do. each day. it's a choice to be confident in God or rely on myself. the days i rely on myself are nothing short of torture. it's when my full 100% reliance is on the God who i serve...that everything seems to be a bit better.

where is it you place your trust? where is your reliance? where is your hope in?

i'm so thankful i can answer all three of those questions with God. and know that He loves me. always. forever. and that He forgives me. completely. 100% each time. what an amazing Father. Friend. God.

11 loving words from you.:

Ashley said...

please don't stop blogging! i love to read your 'ramblings' as you call them! you write straight from the heart and it is definitely inspiring! and i love to read about how you, shaun, and the kiddos are doing! i often feel like my blogging just rambling, but like you said, take it or leave it and i really happen to enjoy blogging, so it doesn't matter. i always look forward to your new posts because you are so willing to just put it all out there and i love that about you!

Jen said...

You are amazing; that's all I have to say. (((Hugs)))

Rebekah said...

I love your "ramblings" also!! I have been thinking about blogging, but I'm afraid I will just keep on "rambling":) So we'll see.

I love what you said about breast feeding...THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!! I tried with Kaelyn...it didn't work for us. Lyss was much better and for three months it worked...until I got thrush and we passed it back and forth for three weeks and then it was enough. Pumping wasn't for me. My babies both survived and thrived on formula. I admire you for nursing Evaleigh this whole time! That is awesome. But thank you for understanding that some moms just can't.

Oh and to answer your question...my trust, my reliance, my hope is with God. How can you live otherwise?!

God bless your day!

:)Rebekah

Kristin said...

I always love reading your posts....it's like I'm in your living room, listening to a dear friend. :) I totally agree that we have to be confident in the choices that God leads us to and not worry about what everyone else thinks. And I totally agree about the whole breastfeeding vs. formula thing and homeschool vs. public school. Why do moms always feel the need to criticize other moms? And the worst is when people without kids try to tell you the best way to raise yours. LOL!

Stephanie said...

love you, friend...seriously, that's all i need to say. well, that and i love hearing your heart too and i totally agree that it doesn't REALLY matter what other's think. we all make our own choices, based on what's best for us and who are we to judge. so thankful i can come to you and share my heart with a friend who won't judge me, but loves me no matter what.

Ami said...

Like others, I love reading your ramblings as well. :) Please don't stop blogging. When I read your "rambly" posts, it feels so open, so true. Like those conversations with your friend that can go on and on with no real point, but you're sharing your thoughts so openly, and it just feels good. :)

Thanks for sharing the needs moms have for reassurance. It is so hard; we're all just trying to do our best, and there's so much judgment among moms. Each of us are simply trying to do what we see as the best for our kids, our families. Whether that has to do with feeding them, sleep habits, etc. Anyway...

Oh, and in response to your questions - my trust, reliance, and hope are all in my Lord and Savior! :)

Lindy said...

Glad you have felt that peace about your family. I just recently felt that and now know I can keep moving on and working to raise faithful kids.

I also agree with the judging of parents. It's a big competition to some and it just stinks. It's hard enough making the best choice for your family without second guessing because somebody questioned you.

Keep up the blogging, Happy Birthday, and no worries about the formula. I think that's a great way to do it. It might make it easier to wean from nursing when the time comes! I hope you have a wonderful birthday weekend.

-stephanie- said...

If you had stopped blogging, I may never had been introduced to Wildtree! :o)

I love your ramblings. Love the honesty. I have my hope and trust in God too. Amen!

Hoping for our own Peanut said...

Oh, I totally agree about the Moms and Highschool..Moms are just mean. Everything is a competition. Its so unfortunate. There is no ONE RIGHT WAY to raise children.

And congrats on having peace in knowing your family is complete. I look forward to having that day in my future. (When I have 5 kids. ;)

Cheryl said...

So happy that you have been able to address your tooth problem and also get the children in for an appointment. It must give you "peace of mind" that you know how their teeth are doing. It is always a blessing for me to have their appointments completed.

When you "ramble" I feel like I do when I am talking to my best friend on the phone...we go from subject to subject and go off on tangents all of the time...what fun! :)

Oh...and have a great birthday tomorrow! Enjoy your day with your family :)

With Hope (in God, of course!)
Cheryl

Mama D.'s Dozen said...

love your blog.

love your cute little family.

love your style.

love your thoughts.


memories ... when I was 28, my 6th child was born. i went to my 10 year high school reunion 8 months pregnant with baby #6. yep, my life was quite different than most of my former classmates. :)

keep doing what God has called you to do.

keep being the type of parent that He has called you to be.

keep being confident in who God has created you to be.


hope your week is BLESSED!

Laurel
mama of 12:
ages 9, 9, 11, 12, 14, 17, 20, 22, 22, 24, 25, 26